Worry Room - Get it out, and walk away

[Faith-and-Hope]

Walking with you too @FreakyFrankie ....

I've got a family of (now) seven teens and 20-somethings, and this is a very challenging and to a large degree self-centred age .... mostly by design in that they are trying to make sense of their tumultuous and hormone-fuelled inner world, and their fears and challenges in facing up to independence.

Take care of you, and it is worth persevering through these hard times .... life doesn't remain the same, and we don't know what is waiting for us around the corner that takes us in a new direction.

I hear you .... keep talking here and get it all out onto the page ..... as much as you are comfortable to ....

🌷💐

[FreakyFrankie]

Thanks Faith and OverTheEdge. I understand the whole selfish teenager thing, and it doesn't help that they're blokes! lol Not really their fault, I know, and looking back (a loooong way!) I remember being a selfish twit sometimes, too. Glad you understand, though, that even though I know they're just being "normal", it still is hard to take some days. Thanks people

[Faith-and-Hope]

@FreakyFrankie ..... yeah I know it ❣

❤️💕

[Faith-and-Hope]

❤️💕 @Former-Member ....

[Shaz51]

well said @Former-Member xx

hello @FreakyFrankie, @Sakurapuss, sending you hugs

and thinking how are you today

[NikNik]

Hi everyone,

Just a friendly reminder that this thread 'Worry Room - Get it out, and walk away' is a designated thread for people to vent when they don't want responses and just find it helpful to get it out.

If you are looking for responses and answer to questions, I encourage you to start a new thread. This way people will see you post and you will get more responses 

All the best 🙂

[Sakurapuss]

@FreakyFrankie I'm sad to hear we go through similar things. When my two teenagers "emotionally attack" me, whether putting me down, saying nasty hurtful things which make me feel bad or blatant lies about me to their friends...all I want to do is curl into a ball and stop the hurt. Why do they do this? I know they're teenagers and they go through "a phase" but they know I love them so why so much hate in return? My therapist says "let it go, they don't mean it, teenagers don't know how to control emotions" but it's hard. @Former-Member is right. We need to find a reason to love ourself a little. With that would come self worth. With that comes the ability to accept or move on. I hope you can find a reason to smile every day - it makes things seem a little less bad

[Former-Member]

@Sakurapuss@FreakyFrankie 🌹💕🤗 Thinking of you hoping the day was better for you both ☺️

[FreakyFrankie]

@Sakurapuss, I'm sorry your teens do this too! It sucks! One of my teens is just aloof and uses me. But the other attacks me like yours. He's always telling me I'm doing stuff wrong, always telling me what to do, scoffing, rolling his eyes. He even gaslights me - I'll say something to him about the way he bullies his little brother and he'll give me this look which very clearly states "what the hell are you on about, Crazy Woman?" with all the disbelief and disrespect going with it. I'm with you on the "why so much hate in return" thing, it really hurts. Recently, my son broke his thumb. It was me took him to the hospital, then drove him 2 hours to another hospital and sat by his bedside for 2 days til they could operate to pin it. It's me driving him 2 hours back to the hospital today for his checkup. As soon as it happened, I texted his father to let him know. This father happens to live across the road from the local hospital, so took the son to see him before driving to the other hospital. There was Dad with a beer, all he could offer was, "good luck son". And yet I"M the one treated like crap, snapped at, yelled at, called stupid every day. Yeah, that hurts!
I have self-worth, I know my value, what I can do, what I'm skilled at, and the fact that so much of what I do is deemed "men" stuff (I was an electrician, building cars since I was 12, do all my own mechanics, building and repairs etc) is something I'm proud of - the fact that I can be independent, you know? - But it really sucks that in order to maintain my self-worth I have to struggle against negatives and nastiness from a young man I love so much.

[FreakyFrankie]

Thanks @Former-Member. I was kinder to myself today. Allowed myself a day off and did some colouring instead of struggling to fence a paddock in the horrid heat. Feeling a little lighter now. 🙂