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22 Sep 2015 10:14 AM
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@Lindsay wrote:

I wonder why people can still pick on those suffereing a mental illness? This just doesn't make sense to me!


I think it's because we don't actually live in an Information Age;  we live in an Opinion Age.  And it directly affects MIs of all kinds, in my experience:  everyone has an opinion about what you "need", or how you "should" be treated, and it rarely errs on the side of generosity.  Those who are especially apathic (is that a word?  it should be, opposite of empathic) resent extending any consideration, and behave like children envious of the "special treatment".

I've been diagnosed as a "chronic dysthymic", and even the shrink who pronounced it felt compelled to add "but it's probably just self-indulgence", as if I *wanted* to be this way.  The most recent "friend" I thought I had allowed herself to become increasingly irate and abusive over time because she said it was a mark of "disrespect" to her and lack of genuine friendship that I still remained "mopey" when she was around.  And I discovered I was a frequent subject of hers at dinner parties where I wasn't present (including revealing my name and the like), where I was discussed as if I were a pet with particularly difficult habits.

I think for many people we're curiosities and distinguishing talking-points.  It's almost as if, once we become an MI, we cease to be fleshed-out people in our own right.  In my case, I realised that if I was nothing more to her than a peculiarity she could chat about for cheap laughs with other people, then she really wasn't my friend.

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