Hi @PeppiPatty
Since I have become HR Manager (last 2.5 years) I have constantly tried to initiate change but I keep getting into trouble for doing this with the owners and the Operations Manager who is the only one they will listen to is firstly fed up and 2nd he doesnt see HR issues as his main problem becuse he is just trying to keep everyone in employed at the moment. So I understand but no one lets me do my job properly or by legislation. Example in my performance appraisal the negatives were (this is from the female owner) :
- I'm too nice to employees
- I'm too nice to customers and suppliers (was told to be nice in my own time)
- I shouldnt talk to employees about their personal problems if they come to me
- I do my work too quickly (but hardly ever any errors)
- I overdo things in my work??
and when I asked for examples so I would understand she couldnt give me any - I just go against her. She is naturally rude and arrogant and probably cant stand that I'm not and she is soooo unorganised she leaves everything and I mean everything to the very, very last minute and because I dont she hates it I'm sure.
I think @PeppiPatty I need to change myself and not give a shit and just do what they want me to do until I find somethingelse. I guess the problem for me is that I believe how they treat some staff and one particular staff member is harrassment and abuse and I guess I'm just trying to save people from abuse but I cant as one person alone in this company trying to do the right thing it only upsets me, no other manager in this place gives a toss anymore. I have worked for a few bosses in my work career that were just plain bullying so I cant stand seeing it and I guess I have always said to myself that if I'm in a position that can make a difference I will and I have really really tried but I'm through bashing my head agaisnt a brick wall.
Not sure if its my BPD making me care so much or my morals or both but I know I cant keep feeling like this because it eats me up. I'm reasonably calm but I can only take so much STUPID!!! 🙂
