Thanks for your response @CheerBear. I’m so sorry that is the response you got from your support worker. Yuk, I would have got angry and struggled with that too. Seriously! mindfulness apps and are you safe 😑. There’s some check boxes without connection. Sorry. My rant at that. I hope she gets better or you might have to teach her about being a helpful support worker 😜😘
i hope the kids take it ok. It’s ok to remember that this isn’t like anything you’ve gone through before with the kids and that at some stage everyone loses someone close which perhaps brings some 'normality' for you all to be able to grieve together. For the kids I was thinking this is not a loss like they’ve had in the past, this one they can identify with some of their friends maybe in a circle of life kind of way. But like @Mazarita said it doesn’t make it any less painful.
Like you I haven’t experienced this kind of loss yet either. The closest thing was supporting my two best friends through the loss of their mothers in a fairly short space of time. I have to say I would have been better at it now that I understand empathy better.
Last year for me when I was visiting icu it was strange to see that larger than life figure so helpless and very weak too.
Ok me, well I’m going ok so it’s a little easier to support you. My mood is stablish and I have no clue why but I’m taking it. I am looking forward to respite. Not much else is happening, just riding out my biggest's very stressful uni time which he is swinging too in a way he hasn’t before. There is lots of pride on the line and just when you think you know your kids you learn something new about them. It’s been a big learning curve but a good one to learn now. I had a moment last night when I got a phone call from one son who had some good news he had to share with someone and I was surprised it was me. It made me realise he still needs me a bit and that I’m supposed to stay on this planet for a bit longer. Also have supported youngest with his first job without job supervision in my house. He installed ceiling fans. The job wasn’t easy and there was lots of problem solving which he did well. I had to build his confidence and give him accolades. I guess it’s been a week where I felt like I had a job as mum still. Maybe that has helped.......or maybe taking my hrt and meds as prescribed has helped 🤦♀️.
I have a family birthday tea tonight so this will probably be my last post today. Wishing you all the best for tonight and tomorrow. 💜
