Hi NikNik
Thanks for your reply. He is going to a couple of group therapy sessions now. First one tomorrow evening. He actually asked for help yesterday he was in such a bad way. He is seeing a pyschiatrist and psychologist so well covered there. He was admitted to hospital a few weeks ago as he set up a plan to end his life but rang the hospital at the last minute pleading for help. I was not home but was called by the local police/ambulance who were with him. He had consumed copious bottles of red wine. The doctor diagnosed the BPD and sent notes to Psych.
He spirals out of control every time a relationship breaks down...rejection issues which have been linked to his father leaving 20 years ago...something he has always had trouble with but hasn't dealt with. He remembers every detail down to what he was wearing the night his Dad came over to tell them. His realationships start so well but he snaps and goes off on binges etc which the girlfriends can't put up with continuously. Then when they want to end it he send frenzied texts/calls pleading with them to take him back. The terrible drinking, gambling, head banging, aggressive behaviour starts again, blaming his father for everything that has gone wrong. As you have said a very tricky and draining situation. He did undergo 2 craniotomies at 18 years of age on his left frontal lobe so that hasn't helped either.
Having lost most of his savings this time around has exacerbated hte feelings of failure this time. He can't move out as he can't afford it.
He is smart, helpful and engaging when in a good place but this episode has been prolonged and they seem to be getting worse.
Thanks for listening to me,
Amber1
