I'm sorry

[utopia]

Sounds like you are feeling more positive @pip.
Sometimes it's better to focus on things that we have some control over.
It's also good to spend time focusing on what makes us happy or content.
The more we focus on those things - the more we notice good things - the happier we are.

[pip]

Hi @utopia. Yeah, I could waste the rest of my life questioning why? I went to work today determined to forget the last few days and I felt better. There are genuine people out there who need help and guidance. If I can help someone else avoid the %%%% I went through by teaching them to refocus on what's good and positive, the lesson learnt is, live and let live. I had to focus on another driver today, he started at the same time as me. His knowledge of the area is extremely limited so I put all my attention into helping him and that made me feel better about me. Stepping outside is a great way for the body and mind to heal itself as you can forget hurt by focussing on something that is important. I am important, but this guy this morning was more important as he needed help. needed help and I gave it.

[utopia]

Beautiful @pip. That's how we make the world a better place. Love your compassion.

[Shaz51]

ohhhhh that is Beautiful @utopia, @pip xx

hello @BlueBay, @Former-Member, @Appleblossom

[Former-Member]

hello @pip @BlueBay @Shaz51 @utopia @Appleblossom

"hope I am welcome" indeed!! what is this nonsense she sprouts!!

you havent left in my eyes, you are still in our thoughts, you are a part of the bigger us. you are respected, appreciated and valued here. nothing you say will change that.

here is a place unlike any other. here you are safe to be you. notwithstanding the watchful eyes of the moderators (who are also a part of us) and necessary rules to keep all within safe boundaries.

as for ranting, i am very good at that so I put my hand up to that one.

as for woe is me, yes hand goes up again.

appreciate warm welcome, hand springs up.

focus on us - chorus coming ....... nooooooooo .... focus on you and be there for us when you can

sending love back dear pip xxxxxx ps hope you dont mind my silliness i get so deep on here and i actually do have a sense of humour would you believe.

[Former-Member]

hello @BlueBay @Shaz51 @utopia @pip @Appleblossom

i am so sorry i missed your post. you sound as though you are in a similar place to where i have come out from. That is why i missed your post.

would you believe that I had almost all of the same thoughts that you have written.

I expect that there are many others who have read what you have written and felt the same.

You articulated your thoughts so well. Your writing is far more organised than mine that just goes on and on and on in to eternity.

your words are going to be such a huge help for people in a bad place to find in the future. For them to read that they are not alone, that they are not beyond help.

all of the names you remembered at the beginning my gosh well done just for that.

you are inspiring my dear and just are in a place at the moment where you cannot see anything positive.

I  am hoping that by the time you read this you will have started to come out at the other end of the despair. Yes it is so hard but healing if you can push through that horrible pain rather than bury it.

[BlueBay]

Hi &mohill
Was that post to me? If yes thank you so much for your kind words. I don't feel special or anything. I just try to be my best.
I do struggle with my emotions but am hoping things will change for the better.

[BlueBay]

Hi @Former-Member
Sorry didn't tag you right !!! The above post was for you.

[pip]

Hi @Former-Member. Thanks for the rather unusual way of letting me know I'm needed and loved. I adore your quirky sense of humor, much like mine actually. My ex used to admonish me for my 'foot and mouth' disease. Since leaving him, working and re-meeting 'me'. I've found most people accept me as I am. I've had several compliments regarding my personality which has been described as kind and loving. Not overly good at receiving compliments, but I'm working on it. Would rather help others than focus on myself. Nice to know I can lean though. You have been fantastic for me and I'm glad to be part of the team again. I'm here for whoever needs me.

[Appleblossom]

@BlueBay@utopia@Former-Member & @pip

I dont mind rants compassion and humour too. @Former-Member

Pip your comment about getting outside of yourself touches on an aspect of dissociation.

It seems there is a spectrum there too .. where we can do it sometimes in a healthy way but if it becomes too habitual we lose touch with whom we are.

I also found it healing and important to discover my own personality again away from all the negativity and sneers of my exhusband.

For about ten years I went around saying sorry to everyone, quietly and would move aside. My flare up on Christmas Eve was a turn around on all that .. saying I am sick of saying sorry .. and noticing how many people dont.

Pip I am glad you are back on this forum. I havent much experience on other sites .. but there is great teamwork here.