A long rave

[eth]

Hi to you too @Teej. Hoping your day is going ok.

[outlander]

i really wish i could run from me @Appleblossom it would make life alot easier

[Mazarita]

Hi @Teej, glad to hear you got a solid sleep too. Thinking of you having a coffee in the sun gave me a smile. Hugs to you. 

Hi @Owlunar, thought I'd tag you in here so I don't go off topic in the Highlight of Your Day thread. It seems like I haven't seen you for ages. How are you?

I've just got home from being out and about on the buses, and on foot, first to the psychologist and then straight afterwards to visit my friend for afternoon coffee and chat. Walked home from her place along the beach. Psychologist session (number three) was again great. What a contrast it is to previous psychologists I've seen. I actually look forward to seeing this wonderful woman. We have a great rapport and even have had a good laugh about some things together in each of the sessions so far. How therapeutic is that?! 

Now I'm back home again and having to face the me I am alone. A theme of the psychologist session today: learning to love ourselves. That marriage with ourselves is something we will, after all, be living with for the rest of our days. If it's possible to find love and compassion for ourselves, as well as for others, we will have a better time of it. 

Hi @outlander, @eth, @Appleblossom, @CheerBear, @Former-Member and @everyone, wondering how your day is unfolding. Well, I hope.  

[outlander]

Hi @Mazarita ❤

[eth]

Hi @Mazarita so good to hear you've found a psychologist who's really working for you.  Mine is great too.  It makes so much difference.  Feels like real progress, not just avoidance of crisis and stuck in a holding pattern like the ones I've seen over the last few years.

Hi @outlander hope you're doing ok tonight.

I didn't do the writing I wanted to do today, just couldn't get into it.  Studied til after 2pm from early morning then did some gardening and cooked stuffed mushrooms.  Felt like a self-care afternoon.

Tomorrow's the living beyond abuse course which often leaves me flat at the least, but overall I'm really glad I've done it.  Only 1 more week.  I think the education focus will really help break the cycle in my life and mean I see red flags well in advance.

[Mazarita]

@eth, a self care afternoon sounds worthwhile and kind to yourself. It seems like you've been doing a lot lately! It also reminds me of a book I read once about creativity. It included in its 'conditions needed for creativity to occur' section... doing nothing. Sounds counterproductive, but we need times to process what we've been doing. I find it hard to take these times with my video stuff, really would rather be on a project constantly, working towards completion. But there are times, I know, where I just have to accept that the energy is not right for it, and that I may need some time out to let what I've been doing filter down in my mind and intuitive understanding. Wonder if this makes sense. I have thought a fair bit over time about creative process. I find it fascinating really. Sounds like you did a lot of study today anyway. For some reason I'm sort of glad the living beyond abuse course is coming to an end for you. I guess it's because the subject is so gruelling. It's good to hear that you have found it helpful.

Well, I'm out again tonight, friend visit again. We see each other so much at the moment, we could almost be sharing a flat or house. She does live very close and I'm grateful to have this villagey proximity to my close friend. The flat she is in has been sold and she may not be in this area for a long time, so we are making the most of how easy it is to see each other while it lasts.

Will probably be back online later tonight. 

[CheerBear]

Hey @Mazarita 🙂

So glad you had another great appointment with your psychologist today! I find laughing so incredibly therapeutic 😄 Yay for you 🙂

I really liked hearing your thoughts about loving ourselves. It reminds me of the idea of talking to ourselves the way we would talk to a friend. It's something I struggle with sometimes (I think lots of us do), but it is a really valid point. Being just a tiny bit less harsh on ourselves really could make a difference.

I hope your night is going well. So nice to hear you're out and about 🙂

Hi to @Appleblossom also. I missed replying to your tag yesterday (I think it was yesterday, time is funny sometimes!). I hope things have been ok for you today.

Waving to all (ravers - lol) here 👋😊

[eth]

Hi @Mazarita  are you up for a chat?

I agree wholeheartedly about needing space from the drive to create sometimes.  I like the way you've worded it.  Sounds like you had a pretty busy day so you're probably sleeping, but if not I'm here.

[Mazarita]

Hi @eth, amazing timing again. Just woke up and came on here for a bit. Will try to go back to sleep soon, but for now I'm here too. 

[eth]

I might sleep more too @Mazarita but at the moment I'm feeling ready to start my day ... have slept since 7.30 last night minus about 1/2 hr total awake - so that's around 7 1/2 hrs - still more that my recent average.  

It's interesting how often we wake at nearly the same time