@soul Regarding people saying you didnt try hard emough. I walk away from people like rhat. Because I know what I went through. I know I tried harder than 99.9% of people could, or would. I wouldn't have ended up where I did had I not tried. In factbeing as stubborn as I am, I tried too hard.
I wasn't dealing with the normal show compassion and understanding and it'll all be ok thing. I tried that, that's where it got me. That's why it took me years to work through and get out of. Thatt thinking is what keeps women in an abusive sitation. Yet it's foisted on us once we get out.
To people who think that, I wish I could just hand them my shoes. So they could walk in them for just a bit, to wake them up to the reality of what I was faced with. Then I bet they'd never say that again. They'd hand them back, gulp, look at me through new eyes, look down with embarrasment, and slowly walk away in disbelief. Realising just how myopic they had been. How do I say this with certainty? Because I was one of them once, but in a slightly different way. I was the "whay don't you just walk away" type.
well I have my answer now. Because you want to keep on trying, because you keep thinking there is something you can do to fix, it.
which is the opposite of not trying hard enough. What it is, is trying too hard.
