A long rave

[Zoe7]

I feel like I lost the whole weekend this past weekend @Appleblossom so treating this morning as a rest time for me was necessary. I do have a lot to get done at home before DBT, pdoc and GP tomorrow but will take it gradually and just do what I can. Thursday will be mostly a planning day for me and then hopefully an early night before my whole day at work on Friday.

How was your time alone with your son being out with his friends?

[PeppiPatty]

Hi girls,

I get annoyed that I miss people's names out but just know that I love you all.

@eth @Former-Member 

@Appleblossom @Former-Member

[Appleblossom]

The forum has seen many people over time. Dont worry so much.  I know you try and care. @PeppiPatty

@Zoe7

I can understand why you feel you lost the weekend.  

You are still doing the DBT.  I am still interested in your thoughts, experiences etc. 

It has not been reccommended for me, and I would find it a bit rich to pay out extra for it to support an American's copyright when I have been diddled by a couple of that grand nationality.  Still there are 3 lovely ladies hailing from said continent in my choir so I am happy to interact with them but keeping expectations low with minimal self revelation.  I think this is what is called social learning. ?? I did not keep making repeat mistakes without at least trying to put one and one together.  It has taken me a while to put ALL the social one and ones together ... a completely different task to arithmatic.

  

Oh well ... live and learn ... eventually.

Re DBT so many of the ideas have been around for yonks ... it has been medicalised ... and therefore monetised ... I am concerned that the expectations of the course givers is a bit skewed.  Ie Some have probably done less work on themselves than some of the older attendees.

@Mazarita has a lot on too.  Hi Bella and Good Luck. 

[Zoe7]

I am an out patient for DBT therefore my private health covers the cost @Appleblossom I definitely wouldn't be doing it otherwise. I can see real benefits for some members here if they could have the same access to the content. It has been most beneficial for me in the social connections I have made - the content itself I could also get from the myriad of books, websites, apps that are around but that face-to-face exposure has been what has worked for me. It did take me nearly 3 months before I was comfortable enough to speak more than a few words - that also was very relient on the make up of the group - which changed between modules. The gruop itself now is a nice group where no-one dominates and everyone is listened to actively. It does help that the facilitator is skilled at her job and is very well versed in the ins and outs of the content - she was initially taking a back seat for someone else learning to take the course but that person is no longer there and that has also helped. The facilitator has a trainee psychologist with her but he seems to know his stuff too so it works well.

[Appleblossom]

Thank you for that personal reply about DBT. @Zoe7

Early in my time on the forum someone almost abruptly scolded me saying that DBT was gold standard treatment end of story. I did a little research and am still interested, but also interested in ALL the therapuetic modalities.

Social contact is important.  Face to face gives as such a lot of extra information about how people process things or what they believe AND who we can eventually trust. When I was young, I was usually in positions were I was forced to trust without going through an initial sifting process.

Today my osteopath of 15 years told me she was suprised at all the things I have done, as she thought when she first treated me that, I would never work again.  It has taken me aback in a reality testing way.  I had also been teaching her colleagues' son.  I would drive myself mercilessly. I am gentler on me, now, lol...  since writing "gently bently" to everybody on here.  Getting the balance right is a lifelong job.

Have a good day ALL who pass by ...

[Zoe7]

@Appleblossom Sometimes we surprise ourselves at everything we can and do achieve - especially when we doubt ourselves so much. It is great to see that you have broken out of what others have expected of you too and that makes those achievements all the greater.

[PeppiPatty]

Having a good facillitator is very good isn't it @Zoe7

@Appleblossom I always ALWAYS like talking to you 

[Zoe7]

Having a good facilitator is essential in a group setting for DBT - and our group can easily get way off track lol - it is a nice group we have though @PeppiPatty

[PeppiPatty]

Dear @Appleblossom hi @Zoe7

You write this:

Today my osteopath of 15 years told me she was suprised at all the things I have done, as she thought when she first treated me that, I would never work again.  It has taken me aback in a reality testing way.  I had also been teaching her colleagues' son.  I would drive myself mercilessly. I am gentler on me, now, lol...  since writing "gently bently" to everybody on here.  Getting the balance right is a lifelong job.

Have a good day ALL who pass by ...

I absolutely loved writing to you when you first started. I always looked forward to you, it was like we both were fixing something up if you know what I mean........

I better go though because I have crochet to do and a flat to clean and a support worker to talk to......

xx

[outlander]

good to see you @PeppiPatty sorry i missed your previous msg though!