27-05-2018 09:55 AM
28-05-2018 02:04 PM
As you can see I've just moved your post over here, where it's a bit better suited and more of the community can connect with you
This sounds like such a tough position to be in. On the one hand it is truely beautiful to hear that you and your daughter have connected and bonded through obstacles and that she is going through a recovery stage now. But then how difficult that your work isn't understanding things, unfortunately this is so common and so disappointing. Is sounds like a lot of pressure.
We have a lot of wonderful carers that have dealt with some challenging decisions as well and I am sure you will get some great responses soon.
28-05-2018 04:43 PM
Firstly what a loving and caring mother you are - the bond you have and are nurturing with your daughter is very special indeed and in my mind is what is most important.
It would be ideal if you could work less hours closer to home to spend more time with your daughter aiding in her recovery if that does not incur financial hardship which can bring its own set of stressors. If you can get by it would be a good thing for both of you - and there could always be scope to go back to full time work when your daughter's mental health improves.
I was a little concerned when you stated the cause of your daughter's psychosis was unknown and that there was no mental health disorders in your family, so genetic predisposition was unlikely. Is there any possibility of trauma, severe ongoing stress, bullying or drug use etc that your daughter may not have revealed to anyone? A lot of teenagers will not tell anyone because they are embarrassed or it's too painful to talk about. This may not be the case at all - I mentioned it because in order for a satisfactory recovery and to prevent relapse, together with medication, addressing any issues in counselling that may have triggered the psychosis is essential in my life experience (my daughter had a breakdown around the same age).
Wishing you all the best with balancing work and quality time with your daughter - the loving bond you both share will see your daughter through to a better place.
28-05-2018 06:05 PM
28-05-2018 06:28 PM
21-08-2018 09:32 PM
I hope you find a solution with regards to work/home balance. I'm new to the forum but have a similar story. My daughter's 24 & in her word "stepped off the world" about 4-5 yrs ago. As a single mum, I've supported her through this nightmare of MI. She has PTSD , social anxiety, separation anxiety, panic disorder & depression. It's been an ongoing saga of medical visits but she's in a routine with a psychiatrist, psychologist, gp and soon, a dietician. She does get a disability pension which is what i thought I'd share. It was really hard to get but with dr letters and a phone interview she was approved. It helps for bills etc. My work is sort of supportive. I work close to home amd as a teacher, much of my non teaching work can be done at home. My main issue is finding hours in the day. Because my daughter is housebound and only feels safe to go out with me, it puts a lot of pressure on me to get her out in the car daily. It is what it is. So maybe to reduce your financial burden you might be able to look into the disability payment. Good luck🙂
23-08-2018 02:40 PM
Hi @Mumstheword, when we single parent and work and we are faced with this crisis it is so hard.
the past 9 months I have continued full time due to finances but moved my hours to suit appointments with my 21 year old. It does work and for me I find that my work in last few months is my place I can switch off for a few hours and loose myself in work
you will find the right balance .. good luck
23-08-2018 06:30 PM
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